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Study: unattractive people feel bullied at work

Bullying doesn’t end after elementary school, and is more nuanced in adulthood, but are you being bullied or is your self perception making you accuse others of bullying you?

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Bullying isn’t limited to the school yard

Bullies. They live in the school yard, steal lunches and tear up homework. Have you ever wondered what happened to your school bully? Apparently, (s)he now has a job in corporate America where (s)he continues to pick on people. In the work place, however, it isn’t the smaller or necessarily the weaker person who gets bullied, according to research published in Psychology Today, it is most commonly unattractive people who feel bullied in the workplace.

My first inclination was to be appalled. I wanted to use research and evaluation to prove this theory wrong – after all, ugliness isn’t an exact measurable variable, so how do we know that it is unattractive people who are bullied the most?

My mind strayed. I thought about my life and about my career. I have loved some jobs, and I have hated some jobs. I have loved some parts of my life, and I have hated some parts of my life. And, the deciding factor in whether or not I could handle normal, everyday stresses such as rude people, criticism, and anxiety had to do with me and how I felt about myself at the time.

Bullying is real, but…

I am not saying that bullying doesn’t happen. Some people are mean. But I can tell you that I have been in the same career field for years where the same problems, stresses, and anxieties emerge repeatedly, and when I was just out of college, a bit shy and lacking self confidence, I felt pushed around, not considered, and like I had something to prove.

If someone said, “How was your night?” I thought they were implying that I was so tired from having to work twice as hard as they did to accomplish the same tasks that I must go home and cry myself to sleep. If someone said, “I brought you the handbook of procedures,” I was certain I was being accused of not following procedure.

I learned to be a more positive person and I learned, slowly, that not everything that everybody says or does is about me. My attitude toward the workplace changed as my self-confidence changed.

Our bodies tend to mirror on the outside how we feel on the inside. When I am struggling with self-confidence, my clothes are frumpy and draw less attention to me. I talk softly, I hide in my office, and I avoid social situations. This all makes it difficult for someone to be nice to me. I am, in fact, putting off the vibe for people to leave me alone. Don’t invite me. Don’t ask my opinion, I don’t like talking. Don’t come into my office, I like to be alone.

Certainly, childish stuff does exist even in places where adults reign. I’ve heard of people stealing coworkers’ lunches, pulling pranks, or just being plain rude. But I am able to look past what I am initially inclined to take as bullying when I first look at myself and ask, “Is this happening? Or is this my perception of what is happening?”

Most often in my past, I was utilizing classic psychological transference or projection in an effort to make myself feel better by accusing others of treating me poorly. That made me the bully.

Kristyl Barron holds a BA in English Education from the University of Central Oklahoma and an MHR in Counseling/Organizational Management from the University of Oklahoma. Barron has been writing professionally since 2008, and projects include a memoir entitled Give Your Brother Back His Barbie and an in progress motivational book called Aspies Among Us.

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$100m reimagined convenience store startup to open 25 stores in 2022

(BUSINESS) Foxtrot is looking to redefine the convenience store as we know it. This startup is looking to make it a whole new experience.

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Move over 7-11, there’s a new player in town! There’s always room for competition, even in the world of convenience stores. Yes, you read that right, Quick Trip has some serious competition from a newcomer, Foxtrot.

Foxtrot is a curated, modern convenience store offering a brisk 30-minute delivery and 5-minute pick-up. It was created by Mike LaVitola and Taylor Bloom in 2014. These stores will undoubtedly be popular in walkable areas, but also with their online ordering convenience. This modern version of a convenience store offers the combination of an upscale corner store with a digital-first e-commerce platform. Sounds pretty glorious, right?

However, the original convenience store is safe as long as people are traveling and need to stop for gas or a restroom break.  If you’re from Texas, then you know and love, Buc-ee’s, the Texas-born chain. Buc-ee’s have been creating their own in-store products garnering a cult following among their customers. Still, Buc-ee’s doesn’t have an online ordering or delivery option unless it’s offered through a third party.

Foxtrot has raised $160 million in Series C funding and they are expecting to open 25 locations in many cities in 2022. There are a few different levels of funding. If a company makes it to Series C funding, they are already successful and looking to expand or develop new products per Investopedia.

According to Retail Dive, “About half of the new stores will be in Chicago, Dallas and Washington, where all of the 16 stores Foxtrot currently operates are located, LaVitola said. The tech-focused retailer is also planning to begin operations in Boston and Austin, and intends to open four or five new stores in each of those cities during the next year and a half, he said.”

Foxtrot is testing out technology equipment that would allow customers to leave the store without stopping to checkout at the counter. They plan isn’t to go entirely self-service, but as the creator LaVitola stated, “the more hours we can allocate towards sampling and storytelling and interacting with customers and less [on] tasks that don’t add on to value, like checkout, that’s great.”

Foxtrot is redefining convenience by including carefully curated products. They aim to offer local popular products as well core pantry items. They aim to make the commonly unpleasant experience of convenience stores enjoyable. Let’s hope they succeed.

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What small business owners can learn from Starbucks’ new D&I strategy

(BUSINESS) Diversity and inclusion have been at the forefront of Starbucks’ mission, but now they’re shifting strategy. What can we learn from it?

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Starbucks was one of many companies that promised to focus on diversity and inclusion efforts after the death of George Floyd by Minneapolis police in 2020. What sets Starbucks apart from other companies were its specific goals.

How It Started

They began with hiring targets and have now added goals in corporate and manufacturing roles. Starbucks’ plans and goals revolve around transparency for accountability. They released the annual numbers for 2021 as a way to help hold themselves accountable. The data they’ve released so far show that they’ve met nearly a third of their 2025 goals according to Retail Brew. Because of this information, we can see why they are choosing to move in the direction of manufacturing and corporate jobs. In 2021, POC’s fell to 12.5% of director-level employees from 14.3% in 2020 in manufacturing.

How It’s Going

Per Starbucks’ website stories and news, “[I]t will increase its annual spend with diverse suppliers to $1.5 billion by 2030.  As part of this commitment, Starbucks will partner with other organizations to develop and grow supplier diversity excellence globally.” To put that into perspective, they spent nearly $800 million with diverse suppliers in 2021. With these moves, by 2030, it will increase by almost double.

As part of their accountability and progress, they plan to partner up with Arizona State University to give out free toolkits to entrepreneurs on fundamentals for running successful diverse-owned businesses. Another goal they’ve listed is to boost paid media representation by allocating 15 percent of the advertising budget to minority-owned and targeted media companies to reach diverse audiences.

At the heart of all this information on their goals and future plans, data transparency and accountability are what’s forcing them to look at the numbers to make specific goals. They are doing more than just throwing money at the problem, they are analyzing how they can do better and where the money will make a difference. Something that, as entrepreneurs, we should all do.

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Peloton is back-pedaling: Reports of price increases, layoffs, and cost cuts

(BUSINESS) After a recording of layoffs leaks, ‘supply chain’ issues cause shipping increases, and they consult for cost-cutting, Peloton is doomed.

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Is Peloton in Trouble?

According to many reports, Peloton had success early in the pandemic when gyms shut down. Offering consumers a way to connect with a community for fitness along with varying financing options allowed the company to see growth when many other industries were being shuttered.

After two years, CNBC reports that the company is “being impacted by …supply chain challenges” and rising inflation costs. According to the report, customers will be paying an additional $250 for its bike and $350 for its tread for delivery and setup.

As demand has decreased, Peloton is also considering layoffs in their sales and marketing departments, overheard in a leaked audio call. The recording details executives discussing “Project Fuel” where they plan to cut 41% of the sales and marketing teams, as well as letting go of eCommerce employees and frontline workers at 15 retail stores.

Nasdaq reported that the stock fell 75% last year, after a year where it soared over 400%.

Peloton reviewing its overall structure

According to another report from CNBC, Peloton is working with McKinsey & Company, a management consulting firm, to lower costs as revenue has dropped and the growth of new subscriptions has slowed since the pandemic. Last November, according to NPR, Peloton had “its worst day as a publicly-traded company.” It also anticipates greater losses in 2022 than originally predicted. It makes sense that the company would reexamine their strategy as the economy changes. They aren’t the only one that is raising prices amid supply chain issues.

It will be interesting to watch how Peloton fares

Peloton has a large community that pays a monthly fee for connected fitness. While growth has slowed, the company still has a strong share of consumers. Although it is facing more competition in the home fitness market and more gyms are reopening, as Peloton adjusts to the new normal, it should remain a viable company.

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