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For Lani
Whatever You Do, Don’t Blink
I don’t watch a lot of tv, mainly because I have a short attention span, and something has to be pretty compelling to catch my interest. If you haven’t caught an episode of Fox’s new series, “Lie to Me” you probably want to check it out. The show follows Dr. Cal Lightman, a ‘deception expert’ who studies micro expressions and body language to figure out if someone is lying. The interesting part of this (for me, at least), is that the science underpinning the show is the work of Dr. Paul Ekman, who holds a PhD in clinical psychology and has been studying facial expressions and body movement since 1954.
The show points out that facial expressions are universal, and frequently places photos of the show’s characters, frozen in emotion, next to cultural references making the same gesture or expression to illustrate the point. (The last show pointed out a ‘self comforting gesture’ of holding one’s own hand, with photos of Princess Diana and Michelle Obama.) Darwin was the first to publish on the topic, in 1872, and Ekman’s work expands on that. The show also points out how expressions can ‘leak out’ without the subject realizing they’ve done it. I’ve spoken with a few different people who thought the observations in the show were so dead on (liars actually maintain eye contact, to watch and see if you believe their lies) that they were uncomfortable watching and turned it off.
Reading Your Clients?
From a real estate perspective, I am always using body language and facial expression to help read a client’s thoughts…it’s easy to see as you show a couple a home if they like it, without ever needing them to say anything. Granted, some folks are tougher to read than others. I know lots of Realtors who have been trained to recognize and interact with different personality types, so perhaps a brief training in reading microexpressions could be useful too? Dr. Ekman’s company offers a Microexpression Training Tool that claims to teach you to read microexpressions in an hour’s time. (You can demo the tool on the website, trying to guess on five different expressions. I scored an 80 percent, not bad!)
Although I don’t think that the focus on sniffing out lies is necessarily the most important use of the skill for agents, being able to read microexpressions could probably help you interact and communicate with your clients more effectively. Test out the demo and let me know how you did!
This is not typical Ag but I hope you’ll allow me. I did get a hall pass, you know. But I don’t think this will excuse me from writing my regular post.
This is Michele. One of my dearest friends. She was supposed to be home from Thailand yesterday. At this point we have no idea when she’ll be home but we could sure use your help.
The Austrialians, Chinese, Japanese are all getting their citizens out while the Americans are seemingly – seeming to me anyway – to do nothing.
I’m asking for 5 minutes of your time today. Just 5. That’s all it takes to make a couple of phone calls. And I know you can do it because you can market anything. All we’re doing is marketing an idea: Get them home.
Call your Senators It’s a drop-down list. Click on your state and dial. Get a live person. Just hit 3 or whatever. An extremely helpful aid will answer. Tell him/her that we must do something to get the Americans stranded in Thailand home. That’s it. It’s fast and painless.
Still got 4 minutes left.
Email the US Embassy in Thailand: ACSBKK@State.gov
Subject: Americans In Thailand
Message: Get our American families home.
This will probably take the last 4 minutes:
Contact your representative. This site will get you to their site and contact info. You’ll need your zip code plus the 4 numbers that follow it.
Got a few more minutes?
Govenors
If you have time to do one or all of these things you will make a difference. All our voices will make a difference. If you don’t have time to do any of it Lani will mail you a bag of flaming Cracker poo.
The hateful comment was to this post.
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Greg Swann
February 26, 2008 at 10:44 pm
Beautiful…
Brian Brady
February 26, 2008 at 10:56 pm
Yep. Touching
KimWood
February 26, 2008 at 11:13 pm
Thanks for sending that for all of us in honor of Lani ! Just the little things have kept her in thoughts and prayers all day. Twitter Avatars, conversations, me attempting introductions, ‘I miss her’ statements, have all been evidence of a friend missed. HUGS, Lani
Brad Coy
February 26, 2008 at 11:22 pm
…Great pick T. Tis true.
irina Netchaev
February 27, 2008 at 12:11 am
Very sweet…
Ginger Wilcox
February 27, 2008 at 12:36 am
nice. very nice.
Andy Kaufman
February 27, 2008 at 1:13 am
nice shot T. hey lani, the interweb misses you.
Dale Chumbley
February 27, 2008 at 2:43 am
Beautiful flowers for a beautiful Twithead. Lani, you are missed here on Twitter. Maybe you’ve been watching too much Eli Stone? ;?) Continuing to pray for doctors wisdom and speedy healing!
Ann Cummings
February 27, 2008 at 4:28 am
Beautlful brilliant blue blossoms!!
Missy Caulk
February 27, 2008 at 5:57 am
Gorgeous photo, feel better Lani!
IBR Broker
February 27, 2008 at 7:37 am
Beautiful thoughts and flowers for our Tweety Bird.
Well done.
Still prayin’.
Mariana Wagner
February 27, 2008 at 8:27 am
What a gorgeous picture, T. Lani, I hope that you are feeling better… and better … and better.
Robert D. Ashby
February 27, 2008 at 8:38 am
Thanks for doing this T. Lani, my thoughts and prayers are with you and for Benn.
Ines
February 27, 2008 at 9:02 am
We have been thinking about her and miss her! Social networking is not the same without lani. GET WELL!!
Vicki Moore
February 27, 2008 at 12:52 pm
Thanks Teresa. Well said.
gotbob
February 27, 2008 at 6:51 pm
🙂
Jennifer Wilson - Agent Solutions
February 27, 2008 at 7:56 pm
Beautiful picture T.
Get well soon Lani. We miss you. 🙂