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2008 sucked.  Pure and simple.  The economy sucked.  The real estate market sucked.  Many people’s lives were really not good in 2008.  We all know that 2008 was a rough one for many of our friends, family and associates.  Excuse my lack of eloquence but enough suckiness.

Let’s get positive!

I was tired about hearing about how bad 2008 was, so I put out a call on twitter to asking for feedback on what was positive in 2008.  Some of the responses were:

  • Met tons of new friends and reconnected w/old ones while making $$ & having tons of fun at same time. Best part, it keeps getting better
  • Got great clients, saw many bad agents/lenders get out of the business, met tons of great people from networking
  • I made some really great new friends
  • Many people found Twitter and can hopefully start turning around their dismal realities with the endless opportunities that abound here
  • Learned to love the #mojito (had to include this one, try making a batch for a group of friends.  There is happiness in the mojito!)

Over and over, I heard one thing- the best thing about 2008 was the relationships.  In my own reality, I saw two friends take relationships and happiness over money, in both cases chooses to leave behind significant financial security for emotional security.  While financial security is definitely a huge part of our comfort, the true reality of life is that relationships and people are what make us truly successful in life.  Financial security and true happiness do not necessarily go hand in hand.

I will not deny, having financial security makes a lot of things in our lives a lot easier, and often helps relationships.  Financial hardship is often a leading cause of divorce.  With that being said, I know many, many wealthy people who don’t have true happiness in their lives because they have not nurtured the people in their lives.

My goal for 2009 is to focus on relationships.  My belief is that is a successful future will be defined by the relationships I (and we develop)- be it clients, friends, and family.  True happiness comes for the relationships we keep, not from the money in our bank accounts.

While this year was difficult for me on a personal level, I am fortunate that 2008 was quite successful for me professionally- far better than most of my peers.  Was it blogging?  Twitter?  Volunteer work?  Open houses?

Yes and no.  What is really was about was relationships.  Online relationships.  Offline relationships.  People are people regardless of where we meet them.  Plant the seed, water it, and watch it grow.  Your life and your business will flourish along with the relationships you keep.

Happy New Year!

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  1. Kelley Koehler

    January 2, 2009 at 10:45 pm

    in 2008, i learned to love #wwgwd. i can’t wait to have all my questions answered in 2009! 🙂

  2. Steve Mattison

    January 2, 2009 at 11:30 pm

    Ginger, you are using a gift you have in a very positive way. Appreciate your honest wisdom and insight into what truly is the most important thing we can do in our personal and business lives. Meeting you online and so many twitter friends was the best part of 2008 for me too.

  3. Ginger Wilcox

    January 3, 2009 at 5:41 am

    Speaking of people and relationships- new AgentGenius post-

  4. Ken Brand

    January 4, 2009 at 7:43 am

    It’s too easy to be distracted by life’s blinking lights, beeps, buzzes, shoulder taps and bitch slaps.

    Relationships soothe and reward in many ways. For us RE agents, deepening and expanding relationships is the number one goal for health and wealth.

    We can’t be reminded enough. Thanks.

  5. Kim Wood

    January 4, 2009 at 11:30 am

    Interesting that the quote I posted on Twitter this morning was so perfectly intertwined with your post….. “Money can make you wealthy. Friends can make you rich”.

    The relationship building is such a great experience…. some you will hold onto forever, some will be real life, some online… and it seems no matter what…. all can help with ones own growth 🙂 !!

    So happy to have real relationship with Ginger W. Founded in 2008. A good thing 🙂

  6. Paula Henry

    January 4, 2009 at 8:47 pm

    Ginger – Wise words from the woman with the answers. This post reminds me of a quote:

    Thngs are made to be used and people to be loved – not the other way around – (paraphrased)

  7. Mary Ann

    May 25, 2009 at 4:12 pm

    Repairing a relationship is always trying. When your relationship is in trouble, it causes anxiety, depression, and can even lead to substance abuse. Possibly you have discovered a need to Fix Your Relationship, but don’t know what you should do. That is why it is important to deal with the conflict quickly to prevent it from getting worse.

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Disputing a property’s value in a short sale: turn a no into a go

During a short sale, there may be various obstacles, with misaligned property values ranking near the top, but it doesn’t have to be a dealbreaker!



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magic eight ball

It’s about getting your way

Were you on the debate team in high school? Were you really effective at convincing your parent or guardian to let you do things that you shouldn’t have been doing? How are your objection-handling skills? Can you flip a no into a go?

When working on short sales, there is one aspect of the process that may require those excellent negotiation or debate skills: disputing the property value. In a short sale, the short sale lender sends an appraiser or broker to the property and this individual conducts a Broker Price Opinion or an appraisal, using special forms provided by the short sale lender.

After this individual completes the Broker Price Opinion or the appraisal, he or she will return it to the short sale lender. Shortly thereafter, the short sale lender will be ready to talk about the purchase price. Will the lender accept the offer on the table or is the lender looking for more? If the lender is seeking an offer for a lot more than the one on the table, mentally prepare for the fact that you will need to conduct a value dispute.

Value Dispute Process

While each of the different short sale lenders (including Fannie Mae) has their own policies and procedures for value dispute, all these procedures have some things in common. Follow the steps below in order to conduct an effective value dispute.

  1. Inquire about forms. Ask your short sale lender if there are specific forms that you need to complete in order to conduct a value dispute. Obtain those forms if necessary.
  2. Gather information. Your goal is to convince the lender to accept the buyer’s offer, so you need to demonstrate that your offer is in line with the value of the property. Collect data that proves this point, such as reports from the MLS, Trulia, Zillow, or your local title company.
  3. Take photos. If there are parts of the property that are substandard and possibly were not revealed to the lender by the individual conducting the BPO, take photos of those items. Perhaps the kitchen has no flooring, or there is a 40-year old roof. Take photos to demonstrate these defects.
  4. Obtain bids. For any defects on the property, obtain a minimum of two bids from licensed contractors. For example, obtain two bids from roofers or structural engineers if necessary
  5. Write a report. Think back to high school English class if necessary. Write a short essay that references your information, photos, and bids, and explains how these items support your buyer’s value. This is not something that you whip up in five minutes. Spend time preparing a compelling appeal.

It is entirely possible that some lenders will not be particularly open-minded when it comes to valuation dispute. However, more times than not, an effective value dispute leads to short sale approval.

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Short sale standoffs: how to avoid getting hit

The short sale process can feel a lot like a wild west standoff, but there are ways to come out victorious, so let’s talk about those methods:



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short sales standoff

What is a short sale standoff?

If you are a short sale listing agent, a short sale processor, or a short sale negotiator then you probably already know about the short sale standoff. That’s when you are processing a short sale with more than one lien holder and neither will agree to the terms offered by the other. Or… better yet, each one will not move any further in the short sale process until they see the short sale approval letter from the other lien holder.

Scenario #1 – You are processing a short sale with two different mortgage-servicing companies. Bank 1 employees tell you that they will proceed with the short sale, and they will offer Bank 2 a certain amount to release their lien. You call Bank 2 and tell them the good news. Unfortunately, the folks at Bank 2 want more money. If Bank 1 and Bank 2 do not agree, then you are in a standoff.

Scenario #2 – You are processing a short sale with two different mortgage-servicing companies. Bank 1 employees tell you that they cannot generate your approval letter until you present them with the approval letter from Bank 2. Bank 2 employees tell you the exact same thing. Clearly, in this situation, you are in a standoff.

How to Avoid the Standoff

If you are in the middle of a standoff, then you are likely very frustrated. You’ve gotten pretty far in the short sale process and you are likely receiving lots of pressure from all of the parties to the transaction. And, the lenders are not helping much by creating the standoff.

Here are some ideas for how to get out of the situation:

  • Go back to the first lien holder and ask them if they are willing to give the second lien holder more money.
  • Go to the second lien holder and tell them that the first lien holder has insisted on a maximum amount and see if they will budge.
  • If no one will budge, find out why. Is this a Fannie Mae or Freddie Mac loan? If so, they have a maximum that they allow the second. And, if you alert the second of that information, they may become more compliant.
  • Worst case: someone will have to pay the difference. Depending on the laws in your state, it could be the buyer, the seller, or the agents (yuck). No matter what, make sure that this contribution is disclosed to all parties and appears on the short sale settlement statement at closing.
  • In Scenario #2, someone’s got to give in. Try explaining to both sides where you are and see if one will agree to generate their approval letter. If not, follow the tips provided in this Agent Genius article and take your complaint to the streets.

One thing about short sales is that the problems that arise can be difficult to resolve merely because of the number of parties involved—and all from remote locations. Imagine how much easier this would be if all parties sat at the same table and broke bread? If we all sat at the same table, then we wouldn’t need armor in order to avoid the flying bullets from the short sale standoff.

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Short sale approval letters don’t arrive in the blink of an eye

Short sale approval letters may look like they’ve been obtained simply by experts, but it takes time and doesn’t just happen with luck.



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Short sale approval: getting prepared, making it happen

People always ask me how it is that I obtain short sale approval letters with such ease. The truth is, that while I have more short sale processing and negotiating experience than most agents and brokers, I don’t just blink my eyes like Jeannie and make those short sale approval letters appear. I often sweat it, just like everyone else.

Despite the fact that I do not have magical powers, I do have something else on my side—education. One of the most important things than can lead to short sale success for any and all agents is education.

Experience dictates that agents that learn about the short sale process
have increased short sale closings.

Short sale education opportunities abound

There are many ways to become educated about the short sale process and make getting short sale approval letters look easy to obtain. These include:

  • Classes at your local board of Realtors®
  • Free short sale webinars and workshops
  • The short sale or foreclosure specialist designations

As the distressed property arena grows and changes, it is important to always stay abreast of policy changes that may impact how you do your job and how you process any short sale that lands on your plate.

The most important thing to do is to read, read, read. Follow short sale specialists and those who blog about short sales on AGBeat, Google+, facebook, and twitter. Set up a Google Alert for the term ‘short sale’ and you will receive Google’s top short sale picks daily in your email inbox. Visit mortgagor websites to read up on their specific policies and procedures.

Don’t take on too much

And, when you get a call from a prospective short sale seller, make sure that you don’t bit off more than you can chew. Agents in most of America right now are clamoring for listings since we are in the midst of a listing shortage. But, if you are going to take on a short sale, be sure that it is a deal that you can close. And, if you have your doubts, why not partner up with a local agent that can mentor your and assist you in getting the job done? After all, half a commission check is better than none!

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