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Downtown Las Vegas – On a Friday night

If you have to explain…

I tell others that if they have to explain a pictures they maybe shouldn’t use it. It would be nice if I followed my own rules. I took this shot in Las Vegas last Friday night. It struck a cord with me.

Often we spend more time with our electronic devices than we do with each other. Yet we use them to “socialize” with others. I use the word we because I sometimes do the same thing. Instead of totally being in the moment, I am in the moment and on twitter, or looking at my email.

In the last few months I have tried to make sure that I never touch my BlackBerry while I am with other people. There is some value to being there all the way. When I am talking to someone and they are looking at their email, or twitter I always feel like I am alone. There have been times when I have been excited to see someone but quickly realized that I wouldn’t get a face-to-face conversation because the other face was looking at twitter. As if to tell the world what is going on, while leaving me out of the conversation.

Back to the photo. Las Vegas is not my kind of place. Look at the photo and the expressions on their faces, do they look happy?

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  1. Steve Simon

    September 25, 2008 at 1:30 pm

    I have a cell phone, I have a website, I have no Blackberry…
    I play golf with a younger fellow ( younger in my circles means he is in his forties).
    He lives on the Blackberry, plays terrible golf and is almost left in the parking lot alone with his golf bag because of his preoccupation with self. He feels absolutely comfortable to holding up a finger to “Shush” someone in his social zone while he communicates via his electronics with someone else.
    He has other negatives in other areas, but it just struck a cord with me, as I just got back from playing 18 holes (he was there), and read your post.
    I hope I remember this and never fall into that rude habit!
    Good behavior is inexpensive, and does not take a tremendous amount of effort:)

  2. Paula Henry

    September 25, 2008 at 1:42 pm

    T- There’s something about being in the moment with people. My friends, associates and family can tell when I am on my computer while talking with them on the phone. I have had to make a concious effort to leave my home office when I am talking to them. I don’t want them to believe what they have to say is not important. Well said and photographed!

  3. Todd Carpenter

    September 25, 2008 at 1:58 pm

    Unless it’s a hugely important call, I won’t even answer my phone while I’m talking to someone face to face. In a group it’s a little different, and in geeky groups, it seems perfectly acceptable.

    I have found use in texting someone who may just be a few feet away. It’s a modern way to whisper in a person’s ear.

  4. Wade Munday

    September 25, 2008 at 2:08 pm

    Unfortunate sign of the times. I think people as a whole are becoming less and less polite and civil.

    If I’m talking with someone in person, I think it’s terribly rude if they answer their cell phone or stop the conversation to respond to a text message or email. If I’m meeting with someone, I’ll put my cell phone on silent, so I won’t be distracted by calls/emails.

    Lately I’ve had people call me, then put me on hold to take another call.

    However, I catch myself doing the same thing with my family and need to stop and “be there, all there”

  5. Kim Wood

    September 25, 2008 at 2:32 pm

    ugh. Guilty. Guilty. Guilty.
    I used to tell my teenagers to put the phone away! Now I just join them.

    I remember one night at Inman in San Francisco, Jay Thompson caught me, “Put that away!” The funny thing was, the place we were in was loud, and to talk to the person I wanted to talk to I couldn’t hear – so we texted each other. We had fun anyway 🙂

    In my REALTOR life, however, it’s easy not to use the phone. The only time I’ll answer is when I’m negotiating an offer, and when I tell clients that – they want me to do the same for them.

    Thank you for the gentle reminder. And the powerful photograph.

  6. Louis Cammarosano

    September 25, 2008 at 6:53 pm

    I like Todd’s explanation-it depends on the context. Generally its really rude to be twittering or checking email (or writing blog posts) while talking to some one.

    However there are certain circles of people who would not find it odd to have a few companions firing off blog comments at dinner while talking and tweeting to each other and to those not at the table

  7. Tim McDonald

    September 25, 2008 at 8:28 pm

    I do find it uncomfortable, and I guess therefor not proper, to engage in my twitter/checking email on my phone while with other people. I’m constantly reminded of this by my gal, who has no problem with what I do as long as it’s not when we’re eating or with friends. I haven’t found too many fellow drivers that find it “proper” for me to try while in the car either! lol

  8. Elaine Reese

    September 25, 2008 at 9:29 pm

    Call me old-fashioned, but I think it’s just plain rude to not give someone 100% of your attention when they are face-to-face. IMO, it sends a message that the person you’re with isn’t as important as whoever is tweeting.

  9. Missy Caulk

    September 26, 2008 at 3:53 am

    In my generation it is rude, however it is so apart of the gen x & y generations that it is normal. When I have been out with younger clients, and my phone rings they want me answer it.
    The only people I answer for anywhere and everywhere are my kids, I never know if they need me right then. I tell clients that.
    But, overall I just wait until I can return the calls.

  10. Mack

    September 26, 2008 at 6:24 am

    I explain my cell phone policy to my clients right up front. When I am with them they desire my attention 100%, end of story. At one time we had a policy in our office that if your cell phone rang during an office meeting it was a $25.00 fine payable to Children’s Miracle Network. Great charity – hated the fine – only happened once.

  11. Teresa Boardman

    September 26, 2008 at 6:33 am

    I agree there are times and places and sometimes with people where it is acceptable to tweet or read. With a group of people it is not nearly as awkward as it is in a one-on-one situation. I do pretty much ignore calls when I am with someone unless it is family and I think I need to respond right away. It diminishes a on-on-one conversation to when one party is looking at their hand held.

  12. Nickie Rothwell

    September 26, 2008 at 12:40 pm

    Not to mention dangerous.

    Remember the poor gal that fell down the stairs because she was so focused on her texting at SF Connect?

    Perhaps texting is best done seated in a quiet place.

  13. Cyndee Haydon

    September 28, 2008 at 9:43 pm

    T – love the pic and the vivid reminder – I’ve started to leave my computer behind like this weekend when I took kids to Disney – it’s so easy to jump on and decided I wanted them to have my undivided time 🙂 – of course it was easier beacause we left Jack behind to handle business (lol)

  14. Linsey

    October 2, 2008 at 5:08 pm

    A couple years ago I realized that I had been on the phone nearly everyday that week while picking my kids up from school. The shame…..

    No more. No phone. No email. No texting. Amazing what I find out in the 5 minute drive with undivided attention that I might otherwise have missed.

    It’s a reminder to all of us to be fully present in what we are doing. Unfortunately, Socal experienced the worst of this mid September when a Metrolink train operator was texting just prior to the collision that killed 25 and injured 130 other passengers.

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Business Marketing

“House has spark” – burning up the MLS with typos and other bloopers



The year is starting a march toward its natural ending, friends…and it seems a few real estate careers may be also. This week I found some real head-scratchers in local real estate ads and the MLS.  However, I get submissions from all over the U.S., so no one is safe from the eyes of  the Blooper Scooper. Check out these blunders:

Do You Smell Smoke?

“House has spark” (Apparently your real estate career isn’t the only thing going up in smoke.)

“Big pep area in kitchen” (Is that the cookie jar where Mommy Dearest stashes her uppers?) 

“Dull Viking ovens” (Methinks there’s something in the cookie jar that will perk up those dull Vikings.)

“Large greenhose in back” (Large, naked Jolly Green Giant in yard.)

“Mush added to this house” (Was that the overflow from between your ears?)

I Think I See Flames

“Beautifully remolded guest” (Another cosmetically-altered Barbie hits the Hollywood party circuit.)

“Enjoy a drink poolslide” ( Hell, if the pool is sliding, I’ll need a whole pint of Jack.)

“Each bedroom has own bedrooom” (Hello-o-o, Alice, how are things down there in the rabbit hole?)

“Separate pod to build GH” (That should please my pea-sized buyers.)

“Play room for the kiss” (Something tells me this is the back seat of a ’67 Chevy.)

Still Smoldering…

“Ideal for gusts” (That’s great…if you want to live in a wind sock.)

“Impaccably detailed” (Incredibly challenged)

“Stylish pewder room” (Try burning a match.)

“Stone pillars flake driveway” (Flakey agent got stoned in driveway.)

Nothing But Embers (This Week’s Fave):

“From a bygone error” (You have just written your own epitaph.)



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Point & Purpose

What makes a top producer in real estate?



What makes a top producer?

Stop and think for a few minutes about who the top producers are in your market?

Ok, now think about what they doing that has allowed them to continue to consistently produce in a down market, when everyday REALTORS are throwing in the towel.

Every day I scan the MLS to see, what has sold, what is active, and what went under contract (I assume that is something most agents do every day.)

Over and over again the same names pop up as the listing agent with the home that sold or the actual buying agent that sold the home.


Except for one agent in my area, all the top producers have teams. Now it may be a two person, husband and wife team or a well oiled team with a team leader, several assistants, a listing coordinator or a closing coordinator. But, they all have HELP.

In my area, the names that keep popping up are on Teams. I believe it is virtually impossible to be a top producer without help. Well, you could do it alone but if you do how is that effecting time with your family? Realistically how many transactions can you juggle and give good service?

Running a Business

The second thing I notice about those top producers is the fact that they treat their business like a business. Real Estate to them is not just selling a house, but something they brand, allocate resources for, grow and manage. Not only are they thinking of ways to grow their business but they also thinking of the future and how to sell it down the road.

I remember being told by a entrepreneur friend of mine years ago, “all businesses are built to be sold.”

Far to many REALTORS, think of Real Estate as a job they do and someday when they retire then all the hard work of creating and nurturing relationships they have built is gone. (I’m outta here)

Focused and Positive

One other observation I have observed with top producers is they are focused and positive. I never see them “hanging out at the office”, or attending broker opens, or really for that matter, serving much at all on their local boards. Oh there are a few, but really very few.

Finally, I don’t see many top producers in my market on Twitter, Facebook, Empire Avenue or other social media sites during the day. I don’t see them at every conference known to man around the country.

What I do see is they work everyday, on their business and in their business.

How ‘bout you?

Think of the top REALTORS in your market, what characteristics do you see?

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Business Marketing

“New bd pans inc” – Making a Splash on the MLS



I have two things to say this week: 1. When you drink, you can’t think. 2. When you drink you can’t- … uh, what was I saying? Oh, yes – the MLS.  It was so full of bloopers this week that I am led to conclude that happy hour started Monday and never stopped. Read these and tell me if it is any wonder I was driven to throw back a few martinis myself:

Booze ‘N’ Fools

“Free membership to gin inc” (It seems someone else beat us to it, Martini Mary.)

“Grab now use imagination” (That’s what Arnold said to his housekeeper.)

“House has new edition” (Agent lacks erudition.)

“Babblying broke runs in back” (Bumbling buffoon runs amuck.)

“Drop by for cocktail ho” (Oh, is the Sunset Strip for sale?)

Puff ‘N’ Stuff

“Near Sacramento airpot” (I believe his name is Jerry Brown.)

“Claw me for selling” (I’m too busy clawing my eyes out over your spelling.)

“Reduction on mid-century ner Holywod” (Another mid-sixties porn star is looking for work.)

“We can sake your home” (Can I get fried rice with my sake?)

Proof or Goof

“Nice streem” (Said Grandma to Grandpa after his diaper  exploded.)

“Nice for dog kids” (Uh, they’re called ‘puppies,” pal.)

“New bd pans included” (Thank you, Nurse Nancy – can you warm those first?)

“Good stable in neighborhood.” (Have you contacted Mary and Joseph?)

“Drawing for plasma” (Is this a blood-bank?)

And This Week’s Winner Is:

“Good school in areola” (Thanks for keeping me abreast of things.)


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