Addiction runs in my family. I’ve been an addict for 30 years. It began innocently enough.
I passed the test. They mailed my license. My broker told me I was the “boss of myself”.
I was an Unconscious Incompetent and I floundered.
Being slow but not stupid, cogs clicked. Oh! You need to work hard. So I did. But, I didn’t work smart. I embraced ways to avoid personal engagement. I was distracted by shiny objects. I worked on the wrong things because I was afraid.
I Was Afraid Of The Unknown
- Afraid of saying the wrong thing.
- Afraid of looking stupid.
- Afraid of rejection.
- Afraid of ridicule.
- Afraid of being unprepared.
- Afraid of not knowing the right answer.
- Afraid of letting people down.
- Afraid of success.
- What are you afraid of?
Fear Paralyzed My Productivity and Fueled Bone-Headed and Unproductive Behaviors.
To supress my fear and feel better about myself, I wheeled into kinetic action. I did things I could master and manage. I did things that made me feel busy. I did things I thought were cool. I did things that exhausted me. I did things that gave me a sense of accomplishment.
I engaged in Creative Avoidance. I worked hard but not smart. I worked fearfully. I avoided In-Person and On-Purpose personal contact, conversation, asking for referrals, asking for recommendations and asking for business.
I chased shiny-objects.
I was busy, but broke. I was active, but unproductive.
I started but did not finish. I loaded my gun. I cocked my gun. I aimed my gun. But I never pulled the trigger.
I was always getting ready to get ready, to get ready, to get ready…..
I spent tedious hours recreating and redesigning magical-silver-bullets; flyers, post cards, eCards, newsletters, tweets, presentations, FB updates, blogs, websites, data bases, letters and short-cut-strategies.
When I did meet new prospects, I failed to follow-up quickly. Then I failed to follow-up because I hadn’t followed-up. Then I chased new strangers. Then I failed to follow-up quickly. Then I failed….
I over did things that sucked time, energy, emotion and cash. I under-did productive stuff.
Thankfully, all was not lost and it’s never to late to become what we might have been.
Repent and ReDirect
I’m learning that contact, interaction, conversation and engagement is THE most important-productive stuff. No “contact” no “contract”.
I’m learning that occasionally, I’m gonna say and do things that make me look stupid. It’s OK. Some will, some won’t, so what!
I’m learning that it’s OK to feel fearful, Fear is my friend. I should hug, kiss, pet, friend and learn from it, not run from it.
I’m learning to prioritize and postpone the burning desire and seductive allure of immediate “Shiny Object” gratification. (For me, this is the rock hardest of all?)
I’m learning to recognize and shun “Creative Avoidance”.
I’m learning to “Attract” and “Loyalize” instead of “Chase” and “Capture”.
I’m learning that my marketing, promotion, social media, advertising and networking stuff should cause this to happen:
Everyday’s new. A new chance to Rise Up.
Addictions don’t die, they’re tamed and trained. When my what’s-right will recedes or a take a humbling tumble, I don’t freak or punish myself. I smile, sigh, shrug, rise and stride forward.
I know what I need to do. I reflect, redirect and dance on.
My hope is that you can learn from my mistakes. Avoid “Creative Avoidance” and manage pesky “Shiny Object Syndrome.” Engage in On-Purpose, In-Person contact and conversation. Do productive stuff. When you fall, RISE.
That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.
What’s your story?
Thanks for reading.
Austin tops the list of best places to buy a home
When looking to buy a home, taking the long view is important before making such a huge investment – where are the best places to make that commitment?
Looking at the bigger picture
(REALUOSO.COM) – Let us first express that although we are completely biased about Texas (we’re headquartered here, I personally grew up here), the data is not – Texas is the best. That’s a scientific fact. There’s a running joke in Austin that if there is a list of “best places to [anything],” we’re on it, and the joke causes eye rolls instead of humility (we’re sore winners and sore losers in this town).
That said, SelfStorage.com dug into the data and determined that the top 12 places to buy a home are currently Texas and North Carolina (and Portland, I guess you’re okay too or whatever).
They examined the nerdiest of numbers from the compound annual growth rate in inflation-adjusted GDP to cost premium, affordability, taxes, job growth, and housing availability.
“Buying a house is a big decision and a big commitment,” the company notes. “Although U.S. home prices have risen in the long term, the last decade has shown that path is sometimes full of twists, turns, dizzying heights and steep, abrupt falls. Today, home prices are stabilizing and increasing in most areas of the U.S.”
Average age of houses on the rise, so is it now better or worse to buy new?
With aging housing in America, are first-time buyers better off buying new or existing homes? The average age of a home is rising, as is the price of new housing, so a shift could be upon us.
The average home age is higher than ever
(REALUOSO.COM) – In a survey from the Department of Housing and Urban Development American Housing Survey (AHS), the median age of homes in the United States was 35 years old. In Texas, homes are a bit younger with the median age between 19 – 29 years. The northeast has the oldest homes, with the median age between 50 – 61 years. In 1985, the median age of a home was only 23 years.
With more houses around 40 years old, the National Association of Realtors asserts that homeowners will have to undertake remodeling and renovation projects before selling unless the home is sold as-is, in which case the buyer will be responsible to update their new residence. Even homeowners who aren’t selling will need to consider remodeling for structural and aesthetic reasons.
Prices of new homes on the rise
Newer homes cost more than they used to. The price differential between new homes and older homes has increased from 10 percent traditionally to around 37 percent in 2014. This is due to rising construction costs, scarcity of lots, and a low inventory of new homes that doesn’t meet the demand.
Are Realtors the real loser in the fight between Zillow Group and Move, Inc.?
The last year has been one of dramatic and rapid change in the real estate tech sector, but Realtors are vulnerable, and we’re worried.
Why Realtors are vulnerable to these rapid changes
(REALUOSO.COM) – Corporate warfare demands headlines in every industry, but in the real estate tech sector, a storm has been brewing for years, which in the last year has come to a head. Zillow Group and Move, Inc. (which is owned by News Corp. and operates ListHub, Realtor.com, TopProducer, and other brands) have been competing for a decade now, and the race has appeared to be an aggressive yet polite boxing match. Last year, the gloves came off, and now, they’ve drawn swords and appear to want blood.
Note: We’ll let you decide which company plays which role in the image above.
So how then, does any of this make Realtors the victims of this sword fight? Let’s get everyone up to speed, and then we’ll discuss.
1. Zillow poaches top talent, Move/NAR sues
It all started last year when the gloves came off – Move’s Chief Strategy Officer (who was also Realtor.com’s President), Errol Samuelson jumped ship and joined Zillow on the same day he phoned in his resignation without notice. He left under questionable circumstances, which has led to a lengthy legal battle (wherein Move and NAR have sued Zillow and Samuelson over allegations of breach of contract, breach of fiduciary duty, and misappropriation of trade secrets), with the most recent motion being for contempt, which a judge granted to Move/NAR after the mysterious “Samuelson Memo” surfaced.
Salt was added to the wound when Move awarded Samuelson’s job to Move veteran, Curt Beardsley, who days after Samuelson left, also defected to Zillow. This too led to a lawsuit, with allegations including breach of contract, violation of corporations code, illegal dumping of stocks, and Move has sought restitution. These charges are extremely serious, but demanded slightly less attention than the ongoing lawsuit against Samuelson.
2. Two major media brands emerge
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