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Are You a Victim or a Vitamin?

Daily Dose by Veo_Are We Victims?

Some people allow events, people and circumstances to impact them permanently negative!  These people are victims. You recognize a VICTIM like so:

  1. Victims mope, whine, opine and wish things were like they used to be….way back when.
  2. Victims bleat, it’s never their fault, there is no forgiveness or acceptance.
  3. Negativity poisons their passion?
  4. Setbacks cripple compassion and chinks their soul.
  5. Hopelessness brittles their heart and turns their futures fruitless.
  6. Misery loves company.  Victims throw impromptu pity parties to infect friends with their victim-virus.
  7. Victims are mean and small and petty.

At times, life’s hard, unfair and brutal.  How we handle accidental adversity and unexpected impact is up to us.  Victimhood is a choice, so is Vitaminhood.

Are We Vitamins?

Some people allow events, people and circumstances to impact them permanently positive!  These people are Vitamins.  You recognize a VITAMIN like so:

  1. Vitamins get that change is life and life is a wild, sometimes quiet and often scary adventure.  They change, reinvent, improve and adapt.
  2. Vitamins take responsibility, they support and forgive and they try to forget. Sometimes they succeed at all four.
  3. Negative and positive experiences power their passions.
  4. Setbacks and triumphs deepen their understanding, juices their compassion and levels their humility.
  5. Vitamins learn, grow and share from their experiences, turning futures fruitful.
  6. Vitamins throw impromptu parties to celebrate, recognize, congratulate and compliment.  They infuse their friends with hope, confidence, camaradery and self responsibility.

Yeah, I know.  Humans are imperfect and living life as a Vitamin is a challenge.  When life kicks you in the balls, it’s natural and normal to cry, scream, go fetal, mourn, anger and depress…and that’s the point…it’s normal.  To shine, lead and succeed, we can’t wallow long or hang with victims.  We gotta take our lumps, learn and be THE VITAMIN.


Cheers and thanks for reading.

Seems I’m stuck in attitudes/hardships/triumphs mode these days.  On the left hand, you might think, what does this have to do with real estate?  On the right, I believe that this Victim or Vitamin perspective is what the real estate business is truly about.  To me, it’s not about selling houses or real estate.  Our business is about people.  It’s about help, service, support, leadership, knowledge, performance, delivery, communication, creativity and more. Prospecting, listing, selling and closing is process and outcome, but not the profession.  If we’re victims we can’t do any good.   At best we’re powerless and worst, we infect and damage others.

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I think my recent fixation is a response to my personal feelings caused by the prolonged fatigue of our crushed economy, real estate seasonality and the weight and witness of angels broken.  I am certain a shiny sunrise is peeking over our horizon.  We’ve come so far and we’re so close, now is the time to lock arms and help each other run to the sun.  Will you join me?  Will you be a Vitamin.

Viva La Vitamin revolution, send this to your friends.

Worry is praying for what you don’t want. ~Deepak Chopra

Written By

Ken Brand - Prudential Gary Greene, Realtors. I’ve proudly worn a Realtor tattoo for over 10,957+ days, practicing our craft in San Diego, Austin, Aspen and now, The Woodlands, TX. As a life long learner, I’ve studied, read, written, taught, observed and participated in spectacular face plant failures and giddy inducing triumphs. I invite you to read my blog posts here at Agent Genius and On the lighter side, you can follow my folly on Twitter and Facebook. Of course, you’re always to welcome to take the shortcut and call: 832-797-1779.



  1. Patrick Flynn

    January 25, 2010 at 11:09 am

    Dynamite post Ken. When I was Coaching Agents, this was always the case! Victims are Energy Vampires and have no place in our business.

  2. Russell Shaw

    January 25, 2010 at 12:47 pm

    Perfect post, Ken!

  3. Erin Robbins

    January 25, 2010 at 1:25 pm

    I needed this right now. Tweeted because I think a few others do too. 🙂

  4. Ken Brand

    January 25, 2010 at 1:30 pm

    Erin – Glad it might help. It’s the sorta thing I need to remind myself of as well…all the time. I think that’s why I write it, sorta self slapping my lazy-lame-victimitus right off myself. Cheers.

    Russell and Patrick – Thanks gents. Cheers.

  5. Nanette Labastida

    January 25, 2010 at 5:54 pm

    ken you speak what i think! thanks

    facebook is so full of victims it is such a bummer but it actually often reminds me how joyous and easy it is to stay positive and vitamin-y, and by easy i don’t mean easy to do necessarily, but how easy it is to get on with it, and make positive impact and progress.

    victims suck! and by suck i mean the suck light out of those around them
    vitamins revitalize those around them.

    it’s a great gift

  6. Ken Brand

    January 25, 2010 at 8:09 pm

    Thanks Nanette, it’s a choice isn’t it:-)


  7. Norman Frenk

    January 28, 2010 at 5:43 pm

    I’ll be a vitamin! Bam Bam, Fred or Barney. Don’t make me be a Wilma.
    Great post Ken!

  8. April Groves

    January 31, 2010 at 3:02 pm

    Love this…wondering how many people I can share it with…..

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