Set The Scene For Love

Love
The joys of being part of loving relationships help everyone to enjoy a better quality of life.  The relationships between couples, families, friends, co-workers, humanity and even the planet impact each of us on both conscious and unconscious levels.  By creating greater harmony and balance within our homes, offices, hearts and our minds, we will in turn create more love and joy in our lives and the world we live in.

At Home

When applying the bagua, the relationship area of the home (room and/or lot, depending upon the area you are looking at) is the far right rear corner as you are standing at the door (entry to property) looking in.  The bedroom is also representative of relationships no matter where it is located in the home.  By simply taking a good look around this area, you can usually get some insight on how things might be working in the love area of your life and where some adjustments can be made to improve your situation.

Look to see if the relationship area is reflective of the kind of relationships you want to have in your life.  Does it appear to be clean, attractive and healthy?   Is anything dusty, rusted or broken there?  If so, fix it.  Does the area get used often?  Is there a better way to use the space?  Add something that makes you think of a healthy, vibrant and loving relationship to this area.  If it happens to be your bedroom and you are married, perhaps your wedding photo can go here.  If it is your kitchen, perhaps you can add some great matching salt and pepper shakers with the intention of adding a little spice to your relationship.  If it is your living room, is there really room to sit on the sofa or is it so full of pillows that it is saying “keep out”?  If it is your backyard, you can plant something with heart shaped leaves or something with red or pink flowers to attract love.  And of course, you can add things in pairs; I think that speaks for itself.

Your Yard

Take a look at your home from across the street.  Does it look inviting?  Can you clearly see the front door and is it well lit?  Is there a path to walk to the door from the street and not just from where you park the car in the driveway?  Is the path wide enough for two?  Are the boundaries for your home clear without it looking like a fortress?  Is the landscaping manicured neatly without looking “controlled”?  Is your home supported in the rear either by the natural setting or by your landscaping?  The messages you send out are loud and clear without whispering a word.

In the Bedroom

Whether you are in a relationship or are looking for that special someone, a key thing to look for is balance.  Two nightstands-one on each side of the bed-that are the same size will ensure that both partners feel as equals.  Take a look around the room; does the overall furniture placement feel balanced?  Are all of the pictures hung neatly and squarely on the wall?  Is there plenty of room in the closet and drawers for both sets of clothes?  I have seen situations where all of one of the spouse’s clothing has been forced out to a hall closet.  In these situations, there is never a sense of harmony and balance in the relationship.  One party is always left feeling pushed out or as though the other partner is overbearing.  Making room for your loved one within your private space speaks loudly in the message it sends.

Bedrooms do not need to be overly fancy or frilly to be romantic.  The best bedrooms are clutter free, softly lit with no computers or other electronics, are appointed with pure and natural fabrics for the linens and curtains, with artwork and accessories that speak of love to those who sleep there, and only photos of the couple to whom the bedroom belongs.  Move the family photos to the family area or the creativity area of the home and place the photos of friends in the helpful people area.  Add a pair of candles to fire things up a bit and make sure you have the softest and coziest blankets you can find.  Choose the most precious things to surround yourself with in your quiet, private sanctuary and make your space more than just a bedroom, make it a true retreat.

At Work

You can apply the bagua to your office and desk just as you do to your home.  Consider the messages you are sending to others by the placement of your objects and by the symbols you surround yourself with.  Do you sit at your desk facing the door with a clear view to see those who approach you?  Is the artwork that you have hanging professional yet friendly?  Does it have an uplifting message?  If a stranger were to pass by your desk when you weren’t sitting there, would it say that you are “strictly business”, or “I wish I were home” or is there a balance between the two?  When your special someone gives you a call at the office, do you give thanks for the break and spend a couple minutes focused on just what is important for the two of you?  Every moment counts!

On Earth

Our attitude here on earth has an affect on how we feel each and every day and it effects the people, animals, plants and all other things that share this planet with us.  Having an attitude of love and grace will create a more loving atmosphere for all to share.

Heart and Soul

Creating room in your spaces for someone special is just the beginning.  Without room in your heart how can love grow?  Loving yourself, accepting yourself and accepting each other and all of life as it happens are all just part of allowing love to come to you.  “Perfect love”, just like “perfect life”, may not always be what we have been programmed to imagine.  Sometimes there are surprises that come along that make the scene just a bit more interesting.  All we can do is set the stage, allow the actors of life some room for improvising and let it unfold.  And be open to give and receive.

Image by Melissa Staar